Everyone has moods and yes yesterday i complained but it ends there. Cos i really need an outlet to let off steam.. but if there is anyone out there who take what i write the very wrong way and prob take it was a gossip topic... its sad. Cos frens who knows me, i am quick-tempered and yes i want things done my way if not i feel upset.. i haven conquer what my mum has been drilling in me for years... " to win, is to lose" but i always remind myself that theres is always a nice side of the person who drives me up the wall...
So jus to let everyone know, i know i have a nice mil and i do appreciate her cos she does many household chores on her own without complaining... (another reason is she has her own way of doing things...so i gave up helping or call me lazy for all you want!) then she helps me to cook stock for baby R's porridge which she is nice to do the marketing, cooking and storing esp when i was pregnant with 2nd one, the first few months i can't stand cooking smell. I have to say mil do like to have control over the stock which i still make comments about how salty it taste cos i dun want the salt level too high, taxing baby R's kidneys... so here again i seem more like the one who doesnt appreciate but i do care for my gal so i have no choice but to ask mil how much salt she adds from time to time...
My mil is very nice to walk all the way to the market without complains and always without fail asking me what i would like to have for brunch to tea and she tend to buy more than she should! i get fed like i have triplets in my tummy! so i am blessed to have a mil willing to help me out!
But no choice at times when we look at things differently cos afterall we are not same beings, i am not born in her era, she doesnt understand why i do certain things... methods, thinking, info updates are all obstacles to our communication. I bet we arent the only ones in the world that has this problem. With the 2nd one on the way and the 1st turning 30mths old soon in dec.... we have a long way to see these kiddos grow up... my mil is the GIVE WAY granny while i am the STOP mummy... so we prob balance out each other in my kids life... but of cos if there are moments that my mil can dun give way, then i dun have to spend a long time correctly behaviours that arent acceptable that would be of cos be better... cos really sometimes i dun know why she allows baby R to certain things... like playing with the huge oven door... what if she does that when the oven is ON! for me certain things NO means NO! thus i hate it when i have to nag, shout and scream to get my gal to understand what she is 1st allowed to do is not acceptable, making me the monster mum... which i dun want to be... so i can't help feeling sore that i have to be the BAD GUY to my kid. If you are a kid would you prefer a loving everything softly spoken person or someone who at times dun know why scream at the top of her lungs cos she doesnt like whats done? That i seriously hope mil can work with me... NO means No... if not when she goes to school, baby R might end up in the thinking chair for rascal acts that arent acceptable...
I really hope to have mil's support and we worked together peacefully, this way we give my hubby less headache with less minor disagreements and of cos hopefully no MAJOR disagreements... i do want a happier environment too... Surely I need to and i want to go to the temple to pray for smooth delivery, healthy baby and smooth communication with family members at home... i sure hope baby #2 brings joy to everyone.
I really hope to have mil's support and we worked together peacefully, this way we give my hubby less headache with less minor disagreements and of cos hopefully no MAJOR disagreements... i do want a happier environment too... Surely I need to and i want to go to the temple to pray for smooth delivery, healthy baby and smooth communication with family members at home... i sure hope baby #2 brings joy to everyone.
i have exactly 14 more days before i POP!
2 comments:
I don't usually add salt in my stock le. Is there any reason she does that? Because I know we can season after that when we use that to cook? Is it because so that the stock can store fresh longer?
Living together is not easy but of course it is healtier if one has an outlet to vent if not will go mad easily but not everyone will think like you do or understand you the way you want.
Take it easy yah. I hear usually when one has another bb, they will let loose abit more with their 'moral&Civic' education!
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Fingers XXX cos i dun want it to another cycle of repeating battle... i sure hope thru the 2 years we had with baby R = a smoother journey with the 2nd one cos what we had diasgreement was settled! Pray for me still! Muacks!
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